According to Denise Lance, “I need help” are the most difficult words for people to say. In her poignant TEDxKC talk, she explores the inherent issue with placing such a premium on the concept of independence.
For people who work with me often, they will know that I am very quick to ask what help others need. I’m much less quick to ask for that help in return. I’ve never thought of it as a fear of looking weak or incapable, but there has to be something to that. This talk caused me to wonder if, by refusing to admit we ever need help, we end up protecting ourselves from the judgements of others but ultimately from a deeper connection with people who aren’t like us. In the end, isn’t everything that we use as a shield just that? A shield?
Shields down, my friends. Time to make a connection.
When I’m not making the world a better place, one technology event at a time, I’m often found singing with this charming and passionate group. Our spring season held some wonderful and complex music and this piece was my favorite. Friede auf Erden, op. 13 by Arnold Schönberg is a work whose difficulty is essentially fabled. It’s hard to comprehend and hard to sing, but to say it’s worth more than a single listen is a complete understatement.
The first listen can really be surprising and, if I’m honest, somewhat grating. When I first sang it, I didn’t enjoy it. But as you hear it a second time the harmonies seem to settle in your ears. On the third listen, you realize that the bass sound is wonderfully smooth and their line comfortingly steadfast in its way. A fourth listen you realize that this is an expression of struggle bookended by hope and peace on either side.
My time with this group is a privilege and a joy. I hope they have me back for many seasons to come. And I hope you continue to listen to us as we go. 🙂
In case you have yet to hear this wonderful, low-key medley of Adele songs, I’m sharing it here. This is Ronan Scolard & Glenn Murphy (I don’t know which is which) and I recommend listening to this with your favorite unwinding beverage. It went viral and…